After some failed experiments, I found that the Norbert Truchsess library UIPEthernet located here: https://github.com/ntruchsess/arduino_uip is the best for those "ebay" cheap ENC28J60 brakout boards.

I used the following PIN configuration:
(4) SO - 12
(5) SI - 11
(6) SCK - 13
(7) CS - 10

(9) VCC - 3.3V
(10) GND - GND